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YES, Sally Ride’s lesbianism matters

Late NASA astronaut Sally Ride (pictured above in 1984), who was the first American woman in space (in 1983 at age 32), died of pancreatic cancer yesterday at age 61. When I first saw the news of her death and saw her photos, I though, “Damn, she was a lesbian!” Shortly thereafter, it was publicly released that she had been in a same-sex relationship for almost three decades — which, the homophobes essentially argue, we should just fucking ignore, and focus only upon the space shit, because homosexuality always should remain in the closet, and you’re actually a homophobe yourself if you maintain otherwise.

I want to go all James Eagan Holmes whenever I hear some fucktard, usually a homophobic heterosexual (but sometimes a self-loathing, heterosexist homosexual), state that a gay man’s or lesbian’s sexual orientation doesn’t matter.

This right-wing fucktard, for instance, whose crap Yahoo! actually published, concludes in a commentary titled “Outing Sally Ride: Her sexual orientation has nothing to do with spaceships”:

For social liberals, Sally Ride’s posthumous out-coming is a luxury problem in the extreme. [Whatever the fuck that sentence means.] She was the first female [and] the youngest [true — at least as far as American astronauts are concerned] and the first gay in outer freaking space [um, that we know of] — and a major force in space policymaking.

What’s more, Ride alone served on the two presidential commissions that investigated both the 1986 Challenger crash and the 2003 Columbia accident, which together killed 14 astronauts. Without fear or favor, Ride concluded that NASA made the same errors in judgment both times.

Is it more important than any of this that, having been married briefly to a man, Ride eventually settled down with a woman? Ride’s identity as both gay and female is an embarrassment of riches that presents an irresistible opportunity, it seems, to kvetch [again: WTF?] rather than celebrate a life astoundingly well led.

This writer apparently is a wingnut who somehow finds the occasion of Sally Ride’s posthumous outing as a lesbian to bash liberals.

Yet it’s the wingnuts’ presidential candidate, multi-millionaire Mormon weirdo Mittens Romney, whose patriarchal, misogynist, homophobic “Christo”fascism holds that Sally Ride never should have been able to have marriage equality with her same-sex partner of almost three decades.

It is the right wing that for decades has made non-heterosexuals second- or third-class citizens. I know. I cannot marry my partner of almost five years here in the “land of the free” (not even here in California, the land of fruits and nuts) because of the freedom- and equality-hating, oppressive right wing, most of them “Christo”fascists that make the members of the Taliban jealous.

And indeed, Sally Ride’s surviving partner of almost three decades won’t be eligible to receive Ride’s Social Security death benefits, as a heterosexually married widow or widower would — and that’s the way that the majority of the Repugnican Tea Party traitors maintain that it should be.

Who is making a big deal of sexual orientation?

I can tell you, as a gay man and as an empathetic human being, that Sally Ride’s sexual orientation was a big deal to her.

My guess is that she heterosexually married out of societal pressure, and that it never felt right to her to be with a member of the opposite sex.* Such a societally forced marriage is wrong to all parties involved. (No? What if heterosexuals felt strong societal pressure to marry members of their own sex, even though they are attracted only to members of the opposite sex?)

And Ride, who was born in 1951 and thus spent her formative years in one of the most conservative decades of our nation’s history, most likely was expected to look, act, think and believe as heterosexual women were expected to.

I can’t imagine that the road to becoming an astronaut (she joined NASA in 1978) was easy for her, and my guess is that she experienced a lot of sexism and heterosexism when she earned her bachelor’s, her master’s and her Ph.D. in physics before she joined NASA. No, she most likely was expected to be a teacher or a nurse or the like and/or a mother and/or a heterosexually married housewife.

Sally Ride most certainly accomplished a lot in her professional life.

Of course, no one ever fucking said that her lesbianism was more important than her professional accomplishments.

But that’s a false fucking comparison in the first fucking place, and of course Sally Ride’s sexual orientation was a big part of her total human being, as it is for 99 percent of us human beings. Among other things, our sexual orientation influences our choice of partners, influences our decision of whether or not to become a parent, and often influences our career choices, based upon societally imposed gender roles (speaking of which, our sexual orientation, if it isn’t “right,” can induce us to pretend to be who and what we are not). Our sexual orientation can even influence where we live. (I’ll stay here in the blue, fairly-homo-friendly-despite-Proposition-H8 state of California, thank you; I’d rather die than move to a red state.)

To ignore these facts, to ignore how much a part of one’s being his or her sexual orientation is, is to dishonor the memory of Sally Ride.

Which is exactly what the wingnuts (and the “liberal” homophobes) do when they state that Sally Ride’s sexual orientation didn’t fucking matter.

It fucking mattered.

These fucking homophobes and hypocrites made fucking sure that it did.

And they still do.

*Wikipedia notes:

Ride was extremely private about her personal life. She married fellow NASA astronaut Steve Hawley in 1982 and they divorced in 1987.

After death, [Ride’s] obituary revealed that [her] partner was Tam E. O’Shaughnessy, a female professor emerita of school psychology at San Diego State University and a childhood friend who met Ride when both were aspiring tennis players.

O’Shaughnessy became a science teacher and writer and, later, the chief operating officer and executive vice president of Ride’s company, Sally Ride Science.She co-authored several books with Ride. Their 27-year relationship was revealed by the company and confirmed by Ride’s sister, who also stated that Ride chose to keep her personal life private, including her sickness and treatments.

Would a heterosexually coupled NASA astronaut have kept his or her union a secret? Why, then, are so many people OK with the fact that so many same-sex couples feel the need to keep their unions secret?

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The fairy dust WORKED!

So on the heels of a young gay man having beglittered Repugnican Tea Party presidential aspirant Newt Gingrich at a book signing in Minneapolis earlier this week, advising Gingrich to “feel the rainbow” and to “stop the hate” (see video grab above), the latest Gingrich campaign-stop snafu that they’re reporting is that Gingrich’s cell phone went off in the middle of a campaign pitch in Iowa — and that the ring tone was Abba’s “Dancing Queen.”

That’s gay enough, but Gingrich’s response to the ringing cell phone is even gayer:

“I love that sequence. The energy. The excitement,” he said of the ring tone, which was taken from the musical “Mamma Mia.”

Showtunes. Abba. “Dancing Queen.” “Mamma Mia.”

Yup. Just toe-tappin’ good fun…

Gingrich vows to plod ahead*, which makes me happy, because with campaign stories like this, it would be a crying shame for him to give up now.

*Gingrich, who is widely known for his Donald Trump-like low-self esteem, recently described his current presidential campaign as “something that happens once or twice in a century, a genuine grassroots campaign of very big ideas,” adding that he “[expects] it to take a while for it to sink in” for us mere mortals as to how momentous his current presidential campaign is.

Of his turbulent campaign startup, he helpfully, humbly explained, “Ronald Reagan’s opening week in the 1980 campaign was filled with bumps. It happens if you’re the candidate of ideas.”

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Yeah, I’d Tickle That: Day One (or, I’m Gay for Ray)

Ray William Johnson

Since it has been established that guys tickling other guys is in no way sexual and therefore in no way gay, with former Rep. Eric Massa (a.k.a. “Tickle Me Eric”) as my inspiration, today I start my week-long series titled, “Yeah, I’d Tickle That.”

Today’s ticklee: YouTube star Ray William Johnson.

Never heard of him?

How sad for you!

I stumbled across this talented, tickle-worthy hottie a little while ago.

Mostly he’s funny, but even when he isn’t so funny, his delivery is so adorable that I don’t care. He could post videos of himself just brushing his teeth and I’d still watch.

Ray has two channels on YouTube, “=3” , in which he features viral videos with his own commentary, and “BreakingNYC,” which is more autobiographical.

With his captivating presence, I’m surprised that Ray isn’t on television or in the movies, and my guess is that in the not-too-distant future, if that’s what he desires, then he will be.

As far as I can tell, Ray ain’t gay. However, he seems homo-friendly, and if he doesn’t mind having a gay-male fan base (and I don’t think that he would), with wider exposure, I think, he’d have it.

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Gay Repugnican’s coming out gets mixed reviews 

Reaction to Repugnican California state Sen. Roy Ashburn’s having come out of the closet yesterday — involuntarily, as the result of chatter after he was arrested on March 3 for DUI after having driven away from a Sacramento gay bar — has been mixed.

Ashburn, the first Repugnican California state legislator to have come out of the closet (which tells you something about how backfuckingasswards the Repugnican Party is), received a fairly warm, or at least a not hostile, reception when he returned to the state Senate yesterday, The Sacramento Bee reports.

Homo-hating wingnuts, however, have gone so far as to say that Ashburn isn’t really gay — indeed, that no one is, that being gay is, of course, a “choice.”

Reports the Bee:

Benjamin Lopez, state lobbyist for the Traditional Values Coalition, said that the coalition’s founder, the Rev. Lou Sheldon, is offering to counsel Ashburn to help him turn away from being gay. [Because “reparative” or “conversion” “therapy” has been sooooo successful!]

“I don’t know why Roy strayed,” said Lopez, who appeared with Ashburn at [an] anti-gay marriage rally in 2005.

“I think it’s more sad than hypocritical,” Lopez said. “We hope he comes to terms with whatever is making him make a choice to be a gay man.”

Gee, I wonder if the oh-so-fucking-helpful “Traditional Values Coalition” offers black people “counseling” to help them with their “choice” to be black instead of the much more preferable white.

Not to be outdone by the “Traditional Values Coalition” (the Ku Klux Klan is the keeper of certain “traditional values” as well), homo-hater Randy Thomasson has called on Ashburn to resign.

The Bee quotes Thomasson as having said that “no one is truly gay” and that the divorced Ashburn “vowed to be faithful to his wife, then broke his vows when he chose homosexuality over his marriage.”

There’s that being-homosexual-is-a-“choice” lie again.

Google Thomasson’s image and he’ll probably set off your gaydar, too. Memo to Miss Randy: The man-lady doth protest too much, methinks.

Seriously: How many heterosexual men are fixated on homosexuality to the point that they make it their life’s work? Um, yeah…

Anyway, part of me thinks that Ashburn deserves a good ass-whupping for having been a traitor to his “chosen” tribe by having voted against pro-gay legislation for all of those years in the California Legislature.

However, for all I know, he likes ass-whuppings, and I suppose that if the penalty for coming out (even for traitors like Ashburn) is too harsh, it will dissuade others from coming out, and the more of us who are out, the better.

Et tu, Massa?

The Washington Post reports that recently resigned Democratic U.S. Rep. Eric Massa of New York is under investigation not only for having verbally sexually harassed male staff, but for having groped male staff, too — starting at least a year ago.

Maybe it’s time for Massa — who apparently has been trying to take the attention away from his apparently busy hands by claiming first that he was resigning because of cancer and then because he has been a victim of pressure to vote for “Obamacare” — to take some inspiration from Roy Ashburn and come out of the fucking closet already.

Hell, Ashburn is 55 and Massa is 50. Maybe they’re a match! Ashburn is divorced, but Massa is still heterosexually married, though. Until his wife divorces him for being gay.

Catholick sexual abuse hits close to Pope Palpatine

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Pope Palpatine, right, and his older brother Georg, who is a priest, are shown in Germany in 2006.

It’s hard to keep up with the child sexual abuse scandals within the Catholick church, but the latest is interesting because it involves Pope Palpatine’s brother.

Priest Georg Ratzinger, Palpatine’s 86-year-0ld bro (Palpatine is 82 and his real name is Joseph Ratzinger), cops to having slapped around some members of a Catholick boys’ choir in Germany when he ran it from 1964 to 1994, and admits that he was aware of some physical abuse of the boys, but claims that he was unaware that some of the choirboys had been sexually abused, too, reports The Associated Press.

I don’t know. It seems fairly safe to me at this point to assume that at least every other Catholick authority figure has sexually abused a child at least once.

The Catholick church has not a shred of respectability or credibility left; it’s gone quite to hell.

Maybe one day actual Christianity — that is, people actually knowing and following the teachings of Jesus Christ — will become popular.

(I’m not equating the sexual abuse of children with homosexuality, by the way. I just needed a place to put this little news tidbit…)

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Repugnican state senator comes out

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This is the booking photo of Repugnican California state Sen. Roy Ashburn, who was arrested in the wee hours of March 3 for driving while under the influence of alcohol. He reportedly was seen leaving a Sacramento gay bar that is within easy walking distance of my residence, interestingly enough. The 55-year-old Ashburn is a divorced father of four, and an (*ahem*) unidentified man was with him in the state vehicle he was driving when the California Highway Patrol arrested him for DUI. Today, after speculation about his sexual orientation, Ashburn came out as gay, despite his consistent anti-gay legislative record.

The Sacramento Bee reports today:

Republican [California state] Sen. Roy Ashburn, who has been on leave from the [state] Senate since his DUI arrest last week, confirmed today that he is gay.

“I’m gay,” Ashburn told KERN radio host Inga Barks in an interview this morning. “Those are the words that have been so difficult for me for so long.”

Ashburn’s announcement follows reports that Ashburn was leaving a gay club before he was arrested for driving under the influence last week.

The Bakersfield Republican, who has consistently voted against gay-rights measures, said his votes were a reflection of how the majority of voters in his conservative district would have wanted him to vote.

Ashburn, who is divorced, has been on personal leave in the Senate since last week’s arrest. He is expected to return today.

Better late than never to come out of the closet, and better to come out in better circumstances than Ashburn did, but I must admit that I love the way that he apparently came out like Ellen did. However, I can’t accept his rationale that he just voted the way that his constituents wanted him to vote.

If constituents who don’t like their state senator can dump that senator at the ballot box, why can’t senators dump their constituents by leaving office or maybe moving to a different legislative district or maybe changing parties?

As a legislator, I think that I’d have to vote my conscience — not my constituents’ ignorance and bigotry.

The Bee also published a column on Ashburn titled “How Much of Sen. Ashburn’s Life Is Our Business?”

Not to ruin it for you, but the columnist correctly concludes that because Ashburn as a state senator consistently has voted against equal human and civil rights for non-heterosexuals, the fact that he is gay does matter. Ashburn is not just some private citizen whose sexual orientation randomly was made public.

West Sacramento Mayor Christopher Cabaldon, who came out four years ago at age 40 (and whom I’m pretty sure I saw at the gym once…), is quoted in the column as having said: “I have a lot of sympathy for Ashburn, but I wasn’t trying to lead a double life. I just wasn’t talking about it. I was supportive of our rights and equality. I wasn’t persecuting by day and partying by night.”

“Persecuting by day and partying by night” — I love that line.

Yes, especially when an elected official is working against equal human and civil rights for non-heterosexuals, the fact that he or she is not heterosexual is quite relevant. Not only to us non-heterosexuals, but, dare I say it:  sadly and perversely, it is relevant to those haters whom he or she represents. 

I, for one, wouldn’t want to represent a constituency consisting of a majority who hate me for not being heterosexual.

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My problem with Johnny Queer — er, Weir

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Figure skater Johnny Weir, shown in Vancouver on Thursday, refuses to state his sexual orientation. Like we really need him to, but still

Some French-language Canadian broadcasters are under fire for having teased gender-bending American figure skater Johnny Weir on air.

Among other things, the two French male broadcasters (named Claude and Alain; I don’t know if it’s “The Claude & Alain Show” or not, but it would appear as though some things, like ignorant, juvenile white male radio hosts, are cross-cultural) suggested that Weir should go through gender testing, like South African track star Caster Semenya, who indeed possesses the XY (male) chromosomes although he/she was competing against biological (XX-chromosomal) women.

(As I noted at the time that that story broke, if Caster truly considers him- or herself to be a female, then I am fine with that, as I am happy to go along with any other individual’s own gender identity, and as I love gender-bending, but a biological male should not be allowed to compete athletically against biological females, as it is unfair to those biological females who do not possess the same biological athletic advantage.)

Although I haven’t been between his legs, I have precious little doubt that Johnny Weir is a biological male who is attracted, predominantly or exclusively, to members of his own sex.

Not that there is anything wrong with that.

I, too, am attracted predominantly to members of my own sex.

But I’m open about it.

Weir, however, despite the fact that Helen Fucking Keller could tell that he’s a poof, won’t say.

This is how Weir has responded to the question as to whether or not he is a flamer on ice:

“I don’t feel the need to express my sexual being because it’s not part of my sport and it’s private. I can sleep with whomever I choose and it doesn’t affect what I’m doing on the ice, so speculation is speculation.”

Bullshit.

One’s sexual orientation and gender identity are a huge part of him- or herself, as are one’s race and one’s biological gender — and one’s age, for that matter. One’s sexual orientation, like these other demographics, has profound affects on his or her social interactions.

Therefore, we cannot neatly compartmentalize our sexual orientation, as Weir apparently attempts to do, stating that his sexuality off the ice has no bearing whatsoever upon what he does upon the ice.

The fuck that his sexuality has no bearing upon his sport. Look at the news photos above, for fuck’s sake, and then ponder his claim, “I don’t feel the need to express my sexual being because it’s not part of my sport and it’s private.” He’s not expressing his sexual being in those photos? He keeps his sexual being strictly private?

Right…

Except that Johnny Weir doesn’t exist in a vacuum, but is a member of a social species, and so while he apparently would like all discussion of his sexual orientation to stop, it isn’t going to.

And, of course, by refusing to publicly claim a team, so to speak, Weir is only keeping the speculation alive.

Is that what he wants to do, though? Keep the speculation alive?

One wonders.

Regardless of his motives — whether he is too ashamed of being gay to come out (you only want to keep something “private” if you are ashamed of it, it seems to me*) or whether he likes the attention that making people “speculate” about the obvious gets him — Weir does a disservice to all gay men and lesbians and other non-heterosexuals and other non-gender-conforming individuals by refusing to just come out and say what everyone knows anyway.

I have no problem with the way that Weir dresses or acts. It’s his right to be who he wants to be. I’m not one of these gay men who is going to bash Weir or any other effeminate gay man because I, a non-effeminate (or so I’m told, anyway) gay man, doesn’t want to be associated with effeminate gay men. (Nor do I distance myself from the leather crowd or any other highly stigmatized segment of the gay community that the wingnuts bash, because fuck the wingnuts! They crow incessantly about freedom and liberty, but those motherfucking fascists want freedom and liberty only for those who march in lockstep with them.)

But I resent the fact that Johnny Weir refuses to claim his own tribe.

Many members of his tribe have even died fighting for his right to be who he is, and by refusing to acknowledge his tribe, he spits, shits and pisses on the faces of those who have been far, far braver than is he.

Until and unless Johnny Weir comes out, he sucks ass.

*Any actual sexual acts that Weir practices in private are indeed his own business, but his overall sexual orientation, in my book, is not. And again, to claim that one’s sexual orientation is “private” means that one is ashamed of his or her sexual orientation. It cannot mean anything else.

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