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Ken Mehlman is NOT one of us

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Repugnican Ken Mehlman, pictured in 2005, now finally publicly acknowledges that he’s gay. All non-heterosexuals of good conscience should shun him for having sold his community out for political gain. Ken Mehlman is a fucking piece of shit who should donate his organs now.

I’ve heard way too many gay men (and some others) defend Ken Mehlman, who was George W. Bush’s campaign manager for Bush’s 2004 “re”-election campaign and then served as head of the Repugnican National Committee before finally publicly acknowledging this week that he’s gay.

We (those of us gay men who were paying attention) all knew for years that Kenny Boy is gay. Way back in November 2004 I wrote about Mehlman’s closeted homosexuality.

The most common “defense” of Mehlman that I’ve been hearing as of late is that coming out can be a process, that it can take time, blah blah blah blah blah.*

Bullshit.

Mehlman was 37 years old when I blogged about him in November 2004. A 37-year-old man knows fully well whether or not he is primarily or exclusively sexually attracted to other men.

So the issue wasn’t that Mehlman wasn’t sure of his sexual orientation. The issue was that he was too much of a fucking coward and a fucking liar to be truthful with others about his sexual orientation.

And fine if we want to let pathetic closet cases pathetically drag their feet for years, knowing fully well that they are homosexual, perhaps even having sex with other men on the side while lying to everyone about their sexual orientation (a phenomenon that I refer to as “having one’s cock and eat it too”).

But not everyone who has his cock and eats it too is the fucking campaign manager for the BushCheneyCorp, which used whipped-up anti-gay sentiment as its centerpiece for the 2004 elections, just as the Repugnican Tea Party today is using the hatred of “illegals” and their “anchor babies” and Muslims as its centerpiece for the 2010 elections. And not every closet case then goes on to be the head of the RNC.

Ken Mehlman should be embraced by the non-heterosexual community to the same degree that a Jew who had helped the Nazis persecute the Jews should be embraced by the Jewish community.

That’s not hyperbole — that’s exactly how I feel about Ken Mehlman.

He’s a fucking traitor. He caused immeasurable harm to the non-heterosexual community and now he says that he’s one of us.

No, he isn’t one of us — and anyone who associates with him is, quite literally, palling around with a terrorist.**

*Mehlman himself is trying to use this defense. “It’s taken me 43 years to get comfortable with this part of my life,” he is quoted as having said. “Everybody has [his or her] own path to travel, [his or her] own journey, and for me, over the past few months, I’ve told my family, friends, former colleagues, and current colleagues, and they’ve been wonderful and supportive. The process has been something that’s made me a happier and better person. It’s something I wish I had done years ago.”

Mehlman conveniently leaves out the part, the little detail, where he supported the party that sold out non-heterosexuals for political gain, and he talks about his own happiness with apparent total disregard for what he did to others — who also wish that he’d come out of the closet years ago.

And really, anyone who uses the mawkish term “journey” to talk about his or her life should be shot immediately.

**My broad definition of “terrorism” is the use of fear for political gain, and Mehlman was instrumental in the Repugnican Tea Party’s use of the fear of and the hatred of non-heterosexuals for political gain.

There is no doubt that Mehlman’s support of the party that historically has persecuted non-heterosexuals has contributed to the national homophobic sociopolitical atmosphere that has caused the deaths of many non-heterosexuals.

There is no doubt in my mind that Mehlman is indirectly responsible for deaths of members of the community that he now claims for himself. I hope that his karma hits him sooner rather than later.

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Gay Repugnican’s coming out gets mixed reviews 

Reaction to Repugnican California state Sen. Roy Ashburn’s having come out of the closet yesterday — involuntarily, as the result of chatter after he was arrested on March 3 for DUI after having driven away from a Sacramento gay bar — has been mixed.

Ashburn, the first Repugnican California state legislator to have come out of the closet (which tells you something about how backfuckingasswards the Repugnican Party is), received a fairly warm, or at least a not hostile, reception when he returned to the state Senate yesterday, The Sacramento Bee reports.

Homo-hating wingnuts, however, have gone so far as to say that Ashburn isn’t really gay — indeed, that no one is, that being gay is, of course, a “choice.”

Reports the Bee:

Benjamin Lopez, state lobbyist for the Traditional Values Coalition, said that the coalition’s founder, the Rev. Lou Sheldon, is offering to counsel Ashburn to help him turn away from being gay. [Because “reparative” or “conversion” “therapy” has been sooooo successful!]

“I don’t know why Roy strayed,” said Lopez, who appeared with Ashburn at [an] anti-gay marriage rally in 2005.

“I think it’s more sad than hypocritical,” Lopez said. “We hope he comes to terms with whatever is making him make a choice to be a gay man.”

Gee, I wonder if the oh-so-fucking-helpful “Traditional Values Coalition” offers black people “counseling” to help them with their “choice” to be black instead of the much more preferable white.

Not to be outdone by the “Traditional Values Coalition” (the Ku Klux Klan is the keeper of certain “traditional values” as well), homo-hater Randy Thomasson has called on Ashburn to resign.

The Bee quotes Thomasson as having said that “no one is truly gay” and that the divorced Ashburn “vowed to be faithful to his wife, then broke his vows when he chose homosexuality over his marriage.”

There’s that being-homosexual-is-a-“choice” lie again.

Google Thomasson’s image and he’ll probably set off your gaydar, too. Memo to Miss Randy: The man-lady doth protest too much, methinks.

Seriously: How many heterosexual men are fixated on homosexuality to the point that they make it their life’s work? Um, yeah…

Anyway, part of me thinks that Ashburn deserves a good ass-whupping for having been a traitor to his “chosen” tribe by having voted against pro-gay legislation for all of those years in the California Legislature.

However, for all I know, he likes ass-whuppings, and I suppose that if the penalty for coming out (even for traitors like Ashburn) is too harsh, it will dissuade others from coming out, and the more of us who are out, the better.

Et tu, Massa?

The Washington Post reports that recently resigned Democratic U.S. Rep. Eric Massa of New York is under investigation not only for having verbally sexually harassed male staff, but for having groped male staff, too — starting at least a year ago.

Maybe it’s time for Massa — who apparently has been trying to take the attention away from his apparently busy hands by claiming first that he was resigning because of cancer and then because he has been a victim of pressure to vote for “Obamacare” — to take some inspiration from Roy Ashburn and come out of the fucking closet already.

Hell, Ashburn is 55 and Massa is 50. Maybe they’re a match! Ashburn is divorced, but Massa is still heterosexually married, though. Until his wife divorces him for being gay.

Catholick sexual abuse hits close to Pope Palpatine

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Pope Palpatine, right, and his older brother Georg, who is a priest, are shown in Germany in 2006.

It’s hard to keep up with the child sexual abuse scandals within the Catholick church, but the latest is interesting because it involves Pope Palpatine’s brother.

Priest Georg Ratzinger, Palpatine’s 86-year-0ld bro (Palpatine is 82 and his real name is Joseph Ratzinger), cops to having slapped around some members of a Catholick boys’ choir in Germany when he ran it from 1964 to 1994, and admits that he was aware of some physical abuse of the boys, but claims that he was unaware that some of the choirboys had been sexually abused, too, reports The Associated Press.

I don’t know. It seems fairly safe to me at this point to assume that at least every other Catholick authority figure has sexually abused a child at least once.

The Catholick church has not a shred of respectability or credibility left; it’s gone quite to hell.

Maybe one day actual Christianity — that is, people actually knowing and following the teachings of Jesus Christ — will become popular.

(I’m not equating the sexual abuse of children with homosexuality, by the way. I just needed a place to put this little news tidbit…)

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Repugnican state senator comes out

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This is the booking photo of Repugnican California state Sen. Roy Ashburn, who was arrested in the wee hours of March 3 for driving while under the influence of alcohol. He reportedly was seen leaving a Sacramento gay bar that is within easy walking distance of my residence, interestingly enough. The 55-year-old Ashburn is a divorced father of four, and an (*ahem*) unidentified man was with him in the state vehicle he was driving when the California Highway Patrol arrested him for DUI. Today, after speculation about his sexual orientation, Ashburn came out as gay, despite his consistent anti-gay legislative record.

The Sacramento Bee reports today:

Republican [California state] Sen. Roy Ashburn, who has been on leave from the [state] Senate since his DUI arrest last week, confirmed today that he is gay.

“I’m gay,” Ashburn told KERN radio host Inga Barks in an interview this morning. “Those are the words that have been so difficult for me for so long.”

Ashburn’s announcement follows reports that Ashburn was leaving a gay club before he was arrested for driving under the influence last week.

The Bakersfield Republican, who has consistently voted against gay-rights measures, said his votes were a reflection of how the majority of voters in his conservative district would have wanted him to vote.

Ashburn, who is divorced, has been on personal leave in the Senate since last week’s arrest. He is expected to return today.

Better late than never to come out of the closet, and better to come out in better circumstances than Ashburn did, but I must admit that I love the way that he apparently came out like Ellen did. However, I can’t accept his rationale that he just voted the way that his constituents wanted him to vote.

If constituents who don’t like their state senator can dump that senator at the ballot box, why can’t senators dump their constituents by leaving office or maybe moving to a different legislative district or maybe changing parties?

As a legislator, I think that I’d have to vote my conscience — not my constituents’ ignorance and bigotry.

The Bee also published a column on Ashburn titled “How Much of Sen. Ashburn’s Life Is Our Business?”

Not to ruin it for you, but the columnist correctly concludes that because Ashburn as a state senator consistently has voted against equal human and civil rights for non-heterosexuals, the fact that he is gay does matter. Ashburn is not just some private citizen whose sexual orientation randomly was made public.

West Sacramento Mayor Christopher Cabaldon, who came out four years ago at age 40 (and whom I’m pretty sure I saw at the gym once…), is quoted in the column as having said: “I have a lot of sympathy for Ashburn, but I wasn’t trying to lead a double life. I just wasn’t talking about it. I was supportive of our rights and equality. I wasn’t persecuting by day and partying by night.”

“Persecuting by day and partying by night” — I love that line.

Yes, especially when an elected official is working against equal human and civil rights for non-heterosexuals, the fact that he or she is not heterosexual is quite relevant. Not only to us non-heterosexuals, but, dare I say it:  sadly and perversely, it is relevant to those haters whom he or she represents. 

I, for one, wouldn’t want to represent a constituency consisting of a majority who hate me for not being heterosexual.

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Sexual orientation is quite relevant to the victims of closet cases

California state Sen. Roy Ashburn, a Repugnican, top, and U.S. Rep. Eric Massa of New York, a Democrat, are the latest prominent politicians embroiled in political same-sex sex scandals. Ashburn has maintained that his sexual orientation is irrelevant, even though he consistently has voted against equal human and civil rights for his fellow non-heterosexuals.

Political scandals of any type come as no surprise to me.

“Politics,” to me, broadly means “the use of power.”

Many if not even most people don’t know how to handle responsibly any significant power that they come into. To me, there are two major ways that a significant amount of personal political power can be used: (1) to help as many other people as possible in ways that are transparent and legal and ethical, or (2) to help oneself and one’s cronies (this would include one’s political friends, one’s campaign contributors and one’s friends and family members), usually in ways that are kept hidden in the dark and are at least unethical if not also illegal.

Unfortunately, most people who come into power see the purpose of politics not as the first, but as the second. They might pay plenty of lip service to the first, but their deeds demonstrate their allegiance to the second.

In power plays, we usually see two things involved: sex or money (or both). This is because personal power so often is exchanged in money or in sex (or both).

Monetary scandals rather bore most of us. It’s the sexual scandals that we really pay attention to.

And of the sex scandals, it’s the gay sex scandals that really capture our attention.

Recently, first there was Democratic U.S. Rep. Eric Massa of New York, who resigned yesterday. He more or less used cancer as his official reason for resigning, but the word is that he sexually harassed a male staffer. Details of the alleged sexual harassment, which Massa at first apparently denied but then apparently admitted, are sketchy, but it appears as though the sexual harassment was verbal, not physical.

Adding to the scandal is that Massa, 50, was in the U.S. Navy for more than two decades, which probably helped him win his seat in his Repugnican-dominated district, and that he has a wife, two sons and a daughter.

Gay political sex scandals are bipartisan, of course.

The Sacramento Bee today reports:

A prominent Republican [California] state senator arrested on suspicion of drunken driving this week in Sacramento has taken a personal leave through Sunday from the upper house.

State Sen. Roy Ashburn of Bakersfield, a 14-year veteran of the Legislature, was arrested at about 2 a.m. Wednesday while driving his state-issued car near the state Capitol.

Ashburn later issued a written apology, but the arrest catapulted his personal life into a very public spotlight.

A Sacramento TV station reported that unnamed sources saw Ashburn at a gay bar the night before the arrest, setting off a media frenzy that stretched from the blogosphere to late-night television talk shows.

Ashburn’s hometown paper, the Bakersfield Californian, printed excerpts from an unpublished interview he did last year in which the divorced father declined to address rumors he was gay.

“Why would that be anyone’s business?” he told a columnist. “I think there are certain subjects that are simply not relevant, and this is one of them.”

But in a world where activists have the ability to instantly hold politicians accountable for any inconsistency between their public actions and personal behavior, some say sexual orientation is entirely relevant.

West Sacramento Mayor Christopher Cabaldon, an openly gay Democrat, told The Bee and other media he had spotted Ashburn at other gay bars in Sacramento in recent months.

“I don’t think it’s a scandal for an elected official to be gay,” Cabaldon said. “But if you’re going to vote against every piece of hate-crimes legislation (to protect gays), that’s hypocritical.”

In the interview, Ashburn said he didn’t believe he had been a staunch anti-gay activist, insisting the way he had voted on social issues reflected his constituents’ views.

Ashburn, who is in his last year representing a bedrock conservative region, organized a Traditional Values Coalition rally in Bakersfield in 2005 to support a proposed constitutional amendment that year to prohibit gay marriage.

Ashburn also touted his support for Proposition 22, [an anti-]gay-marriage ballot initiative, calling himself a co-sponsor at the 2000 measure.

Equality California, a gay rights group, gave Ashburn a “zero percent” for his 2009 voting record.

Ashburn voted against bills that included expanding California’s mental health services for gay youths and measures to protect gay prisoners from violence – which won some GOP votes – and creating a day to honor slain gay activist Harvey Milk.

An Ashburn aide said Friday the senator had no response to questions about his sexual orientation, adding that aides didn’t know if Ashburn would appear Monday for a Senate floor session….

Ashburn is a textbook case right out of the excellent documentary “Outrage”: A closeted, usually Repugnican politician who works against equal human and civil rights for non-heterosexuals. A despicable fucking hypocrite and a fucking traitor to his tribe.

Yes, Assburn, if you are a non-heterosexual legislator who votes against equal human and civil rights for non-heterosexuals, then your sexual orientation is quite relevant, quite relevant to those whose equal human and civil rights you are obstructing because you are ashamed of your own sexual orientation.

And if you are a non-heterosexual man posing as heterosexual but you sexually harass your male co-workers or your male underlings (as has happened to me at the workplace, so I know something about this), then your sexual orientation is relevant; you have made it quite relevant to the victims of your sexual harassment.

And if you are a non-heterosexual male but you have heterosexually married and have had children, guess what? Your sexual orientation is quite relevant to your wife and kids.

If you are a closet case who actually manages to keep your sexual orientation entirely to yourself — which is damn near impossible, unless you live alone in a remote cave, as we are a social species — then perhaps we can say that your sexual orientation is “irrelevant.” (After all, if one actually is asexual or nearly so, then one’s sexual orientation indeed would be fairly irrelevant, at least to other people.)

Those who maintain that one’s sexual orientation is “private” or “irrelevant” or the like — especially when one has made his or her sexual orientation other people’s business — are homophobes.

The only reason that you would maintain that something as basic to oneself as one’s sexual orientation is “private” or “no one’s business” or “irrelevant” or the like is that your core belief about non-heterosexuality is that it is wrong and shameful.

You only enshroud in darkness that which you believe does not belong in the light.

There is nothing wrong with or shameful about non-heterosexuality.

There is something wrong with lying, such as lying about one’s sexual orientation, and there is something wrong with misusing one’s sexual power, such as in the case of sexual harassment.

That is the lesson that we need to take away from the gay political sex scandals.

As long as non-heterosexuality itself remains stigmatized, closet cases will continue to do their damage to others.

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Is it time to reel in craigslist?

  

Memo to the down-low craigslist skanks: It’s “D-I-S-C-R-E-E-T.” And please, please, please come out of the fucking closet already, because it’s fundamentally fucked up that the rest of us fags who are men enough to be out of the fucking closet have to fight for your equal human and civil rights, too. You closet cases want your cock and eat it too, but I say: Fuck. That. Shit. Thank you!

There are calls now to put restraints on craigslist, especially its “erotic services” category, in the aftermath of the arrest of a 23-year-old male medical student in Boston for the murder of a 25-year-old female masseuse he met through the online classified ad service.

But the larger threat to the public good than the “erotic services” ads on craigslist, even those “erotic services” ads that are just a cover for prostitution, it seems to me, are the free hookup ads on craigslist, which are a public health and safety nightmare.

Oh, sure, craigslist has its disclaimers and warnings (like the alcohol pushers who advise you to “drink responsibly”), and yes, it’s rather entertaining and often titillating to peruse the hookups ads to see what people actually will post, but should people really be enabled to have recreational sex to the degree that craigslist enables them to?

True, skanks probably are going to be skanks, and if it’s not craigslist it probably will be a park or truck-stop bathroom or the like, but I think that one could make a public-health and public-safety argument for at least some restrictions on craigslist.

At the same time, I’m a firm believer in First Amendment rights and the right to associate with whomever one wishes to associate, so I don’t know how curbing the damage that craigslist is facilitating* can be squared with constitutional rights.

Constitutional rights, however, take a back seat when there is public harm, and craigslist, despite its owners’ and operators’ self-preservation-minded claims to the contrary, is facilitating a lot of public harm. 

Should craigslist be allowed to continue to profit (yes, craigslist is for-profit) at the expense of the public good?

* I refer to the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases; the enabling of sexually compulsive behavior; the emotional harm that is caused as the result of infidelity; the enabling of “bicurious” men (or men who even claim, surreally, to be completely straight even though they are seeking out sex with other men) to stay in the closet; facilitating violent crimes like robbery, assualt and battery, kidnapping and even murder; etc.

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